NERD OUT — Influence

What I Thought I Knew But Didn't Know At All: Anger as a Tool

What I Thought I Knew But Didn't Know At All: Anger as a Tool

In high school and into my early twenties, I believed that publicly sharing your anger about injustices was the most direct way to enact change. Getting furiously angry about racism, sexism, homophobia and other injustices felt like the best way to make the world better. What I know now: In the 20 years since, I've been tasked (and sometimes just stubbornly tasked myself), with implementing changes at companies that improved equity and inclusion for employees.  What I learned from my failures and successes in those two decades: using anger as your main tool mostly back-fires. It makes others feel unsafe to collaborate with you, it creates more drama...


ASSERTIVENESS, REJECTION AND YOUR BRAIN

Paloma Medina

Tags assertiveness, equity, goals, inclusion, Influence, introversion

ASSERTIVENESS, REJECTION AND YOUR BRAIN

First, a definition:  Assertiveness is a series of communication techniques to ensure an interaction is fair and respectful. Put another way: assertiveness is the expectation that your core needs and boundaries are important and worth respecting, but it also means you know that others aren’t mind readers, so you have to tell them what your boundaries and needs are. Example: Imagine you’re in a loooong grocery store line and the man waiting behind you has been standing weirdly, creepily close to you the whooole time you’ve been waiting.   Option A: ignore it and pray to the gods they open...


POSITIVE INFLUENCE: A PRIMER

Paloma Medina

Tags goals, Influence, Public Speaking

POSITIVE INFLUENCE: A PRIMER

On January 23rd, we're bringing you a new workshop on the Psychology of Positive Influence. What do we mean by “Positive Influence”? Positive influence is when we want to convince others to help us make changes that ultimately make our world a little better.  Versus changes that just benefit us, and screw the rest of the world.  Nelson Mandela -- positive influencer.  The creator of the tide pod challenge, just an influencer. Furthermore, leadership guru Stephen Covey says that true influence requires both consideration and courage. Let’s break it down: Consideration means thinking about what others need, what they feel,...